As I wrote about earlier this week, it’s been a really fascinating street to coming to phrases with a few of my limitations. Figuring out my limitations (whether or not they’re bodily, psychological, emotional, and many others.) is a vital a part of development I’m coming to phrases with. However the subsequent step is tougher: how do I deal with these limitations? How do I handle my emotions round them so that they don’t make me upset, irritated or depressed? I discovered 5 issues I’m going to start out attempting in an effort to deal with a few of my limitations, and I hope these supply some assist to anybody seeking to do the identical!
Title the truth that all of us have limitations.
After I get caught in my head, I are likely to neglect how related people will be. I instinctually embrace cognitive distortions that separate me from each different particular person on this planet, and prop up my challenges as if nobody’s ever handled them. However that’s not true, is it? Although they may be completely different, all of us have our limitations; it’s a part of what makes us human. And regardless that it might need to turn into a part of my day by day routine, saying that reality time and again is a method I can get comfy with even having limitations.
Acknowledge how we maintain ourselves again.
I don’t at all times lean into the *inspirational* right here on my weblog about residing with psychological sickness, however I’d be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge that our minds play a giant function in holding us again. This isn’t to say that after you acknowledge this, every part will change; it’s simply to keep in mind that there are added hurdles to coming to phrases with our limitations and typically, we make create these hurdles ourselves.
Keep in mind that we’re on our personal distinctive timelines.
It’s arduous to confess, however I get mad at myself for my limitations. However what I conveniently neglect to recollect in these moments is that every one of my objectives, every part I wish to do and be, is only for me. I’m alone timeline, and I’ll get to the place I’m going alone time and in my very own approach. You may be studying this as don’t examine your self to others however let’s be sincere, it’s human nature to check. What I’m saying is that there’s no comparability to your journey as a result of there isn’t a one such as you. And there’s energy in that.
Set your individual requirements and objectives.
I’m horrible at setting reasonable objectives, and I’m hoping that by acknowledging this I can begin to get to work on altering my angle towards goal-setting. I discover myself getting annoyed for not assembly a obscure objective that isn’t rooted in my expertise or character, and that’s as a result of I’m not setting my very own requirements. Whether or not I rise to my challenges or fail, I would like to ensure they’re MY challenges and nobody else’s.
Being okay with the truth that you’re not at all times prepared.
Time for the ugly fact, pals: typically we’re not prepared. Generally we all know our limits, and we attempt to push ourselves previous that and fall flat on our face. I’ve been engaged on enhancing my communication expertise in remedy for nearly a yr, and I’m nowhere near the place I wish to be – however I’ve made a lot progress from the place I used to be. Not each hen is able to fly the primary time they struggle; not each child can stroll after they attempt to take their first steps. And that’s okay. As a result of we are able to proceed to try to proceed to develop, and in that approach, we’re limitless within the methods we are able to develop.
These are only a few of the issues I discovered in my analysis, however I wish to hear from you! Are there methods you’ve been in a position to deal with your limitations, or handle your emotions while you really feel restricted? Let me know within the remark part!